When it comes to any type of relationship, the most important thing that you need to remember is to be honest with your partner. Honesty is the most important thing. If you are able to be honest with your partner it will make things so much easier to be able to communicate with each other. You need to be able to communicate about things like your likes and your dislikes. This is especially important when it comes to the subject of sex toys in the bedroom. Well not only the bedroom but anywhere, where you would like to be more “kinky” with your partner. But let’s say we keep things in the bedroom for now.
In the old days people found it more and more difficult to talk about anything sexual. This was because it used to be frowned upon to talk about sex outside of the bedroom. Then when it came to the subject of sex toys, you never thought to even mention them, because they were seen as something that you would only find in a brothel. Never would you ever have sex toys in your house. It would have kind of been like the Amish shunning you for wanting to have electricity. But getting back to the subject at hand. Thankfully, those days of people frowning at the thought of you owning sex toys are long gone. They are not seen as something disgusting anymore but more of a way for you to bring you and your partner closer. How do sex toys bring you and your partner closer you may ask? Well its simple really, the more open and honest you are about your likes and dislikes, the easier it is to communicate and the closer it brings you to your partner.
Now when the subject of sex toys arises, the biggest fear that seems to come up, especially with men, is that they are scared that their partner will feel inadequate. Studies have shown that this is 95% of the time untrue. If you are a man and your female partner starts bringing up the subject of wanting to use a dildo in the bedroom for example, then the first thought that a man usually has is that he is not able to satisfy is partner completely. This is very untrue. Even if you are not penetrating your partner all the way, it does not mean that she is not able to orgasm or enjoys herself. Think of a adult toy in the bedroom as a toy to your enjoyment. Do not think of it as something that is replacing you. U need to get into the right mind-set. Studies have shown that in relationships where the partners use sex toys with each other are 65% less likely to separate and 85% less likely to cheat on their partners. Why is this you ask? This is because when you introduce another exciting thing into the bedroom it opens the doors to other levels of intimacy. It is not just the same old thing that happens on a Saturday night and twice on your birthday or special occasion, but if you keep things fresh and exciting then you always have something to look forward to and it’s not just the “same old, same old.”
Like I said studies have shown that introducing sex toys into the bedroom opens up different levels of intimacy into your relationship. If you are able to incorporate adult toys into your sex life, you might be able to bring your partner to another level of satisfaction that only you are able to accomplish due to the fact that you know your partners body so well. Using sex toys can be fun and exciting, remember that. It is often hard to communicate your feelings about sex but you need to stay open and honest with your partner. People might not tend to think so, or they will deny it to the day they die, but sex plays the biggest part in any relationship. It’s what we as humans where put on the earth to do. If you do not have a happy sex life then you will never have a happy relationship.
Having said things and no matter how open you think your relationship might be, it could still be a daunting task to bring up the subject of sex toys in the bedroom. Remember to take things slow and not to alienate your partners. Everybody has a different level of tolerance but you should know where that level is. Do not overstep it too far but also try to push the boundaries a little bit. Do not on your first attempt try to convince your partner that you would like to try the clitoris killer 9000, but rather start off with something slow like a dildo or a vibrator. There are so many options to choose from. You might think that it sounds dumb but even just bring the subject up with your partner and going online and doing some research into the different things that you would like to try with our partner can be and exciting thing to do. There are so many types of different sex toys and stores out there, it can be a bit daunting at times. Sit down with your partner and discuss the different things that you would like to try and what you both would like to accomplish from the experience and hope to gain.
In order for you and your partner to fully enjoy the use of sex toys in the bedroom, you need to be open and honest with everything and every detail. Remember that sex is supposed to be fun and not an obligation. But an open and honest communication is key. You need to be able to respect each other’s boundaries and know exactly what they want and how you are going to help facilitate how they get there. Let’s say that you don’t go online to buy your sex toys and you choose to go to a adult sex toys shop and go and find something there that you like. Make a habit out of it to go with your partner so not to alienate them or make them feel left out. Make a day out of it. Or you can make it a fun and spontaneous thing to do if that is something that you think that your partner might be into. But if you are a newcomer to the sex toy world that I would defiantly suggest that you start with the smaller adult toys and work your way to the bigger or more advanced novelty toys. This not only makes it more fun but easier for you and your partner to accommodate all the different changes that you will go thorough and easier for the both of you to push the boundaries.
Always remember that intercourse should be a fun act and not something that you feel that you have to do just because you have to. It should always be enjoyable and exciting. Remember that sex should be a fun act and not something that you feel that you have to do just because you have to. It should always be enjoyable and exciting.